Couples Therapy for One

We all want to connect.

Brad* has been with his partner for a while now. In the beginning, things felt so good. They loved spending time together. Now, though, arguments seem to be their default state.

It looks like an argument lurks around every corner, especially when Brad and his partner must be somewhere important. When one of them voices a complaint, the other retreats into solitude, both feeling uneasy and alone.

Maria* started dating again after taking a much-needed break. She always feels uncertain, asking herself, “When should I text them? How long should I wait after they text me to respond? Is it too soon to want to see them more than once every week or two?”

Maria wishes she could skip to the part where they’ve been together for three years and are feeling comfortable with each other. She wants to come off as chill and low maintenance, but her anxiety causes her to feel anything but that. Sometimes she wonders if she doesn’t love herself enough to be in a healthy relationship.

When something is not working, it is painful.

Brad starts seeing a therapist for help untangling what’s not feeling right in the relationship. He begins to understand his relationship needs and how he has been communicating (or not communicating) those needs to his partner.

Brad gains more insight into their relationship dynamics and where things get thorny between them. He can see what actions perpetuate the argument cycle and what steps can lead to connection and peace.

Maria starts seeing a therapist and discussing her worries about finding the right relationship. She starts to think about what she wants in a relationship and what it would take to get there.

She begins to understand how she can naturally attract people who are also looking for a real connection and how she may unintentionally attract people who aren’t suited for her. The thought of finding someone she clicks with has her feeling more confident in herself than she has in a while.

There’s a way forward.

Brad practices what he learned in therapy. He feels comfortable knowing his feelings and needs are important, something he didn’t learn from his family growing up. He now talks about his needs gently and respectfully to himself and his partner.

Brad also sees how different this new communication style is from what he did previously. He’s feeling more connected to himself and his partner than ever.

Maria practices owning her feelings and asking for what she needs in her relationship. Not everyone has been a good match for her, and she’s felt more comfortable calling it when it’s not working. All that time she’s saving by not entertaining bad fits has led her to meet someone special.

Maria and her new partner see each other multiple times a week and get in touch by text or phone call on the days they don’t. And her partner is as excited to see her as she is to see them. She’s feeling confident and comfortable and sure that she can rely on herself and her partner.

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Connection is one of the essential parts of the human experience but connecting with others isn’t always intuitive.

Many of us grew up without healthy relationship models or families with a lack of respect for our needs and feelings. We never learned how to respect or balance our needs with those of people important to us.

Together, I can help you build your healthy communication skills and heal old attachment wounds so that you can feel secure in your relationships.

Learn to make the right connections by contacting me today.

*Names and stories are composite narratives and do not reflect actual clients.